By Jose
Demetrio Negrin.
A
family is related to a father and mother together with their children. This is
one of the goals many people want to reach in life. Many of them go to
universities and later, start working very hard to provide a good quality of
life for their future families. On the other hand, there are people who don`t
have enough education to face the challenges of life. As a consequence, they
have children before a career or a job. Nowadays, this is the big picture in
our society, single mothers without father`s support and divorces because of
the poverty they face, so people should be prepared economically and mentally
to have a family. For those problems people face, my parents took enough time
to prepare our family. That is why my family is an important part in my heart. Both of them worked very hard in
order to provide my sisters and I an education based on love, respect, and good
manners, always with God as the best example of these qualities.
First
of all, Love is the engine that moves my family through many actions. My mother
as an example has given everything in order to make of us better people. For
example, when my father passed away, she took care of everything in my house.
Just a person who is in love does such a priceless action. She is my
inspiration to go on because of all the valuable things we have learned from
her such as working hard in order to make our dreams come true, of course, with
the help of God. My father was also a great person who supported our needs
although I did not spend too much time with him. He was an example of love
because he never gave up even though there were difficulties in our lives. This
man is unforgettable for my family and relatives. In my town, he is remembered
as a leader who helped anybody facing a problem, that is one of the reasons why I really feel proud of
him. Now just my mother and I live at home. I remember from my childhood that
when anybody was out of the house, the rest of the family missed that person.
Then I realize we love each other. Even though my sisters live overseas, we
share an excellent relationship and try to keep in touch talking by phone or
through the internet besides they visit our house once a year as well. When I
travel to United States, they have great attentions with my mother and me. It doesn`t matter how busy the can be at the
moment, they are present on birthdays or any other special date too.When one of them
had her first child, my mother traveled and took care of the baby until my
sister started working again. Through these actions, I consider my mother the
best around the world. She has also taken care of the rest of my sisters`
children and I saw how she enjoyed educating and showing love to them. Nowadays,
I believe my sisters are also very proud of having a mother with a high sense
of compromise and love because of all the sacrifices she has done to maintain
the family together. In fact love is all we need to subsist. Love makes of us
better and near of God. Now, we realize that without love our family cannot
exist.
In addition, Respect is an action that we show
toward others around us. Through respect we say that everyone is important in
our lives. In my family I have learned how to respect through many actions. For
example, I could observe how my mother always respected my father`s decision
about any problem affecting the family without arguments in a quiet mood and
respectful forms. In the same way, I can see how my family shows respect to the
privacy of anyone because nobody wants to feel that their own family interferes
with their private lives. That is another reason why we share a good
relationship based on respect. Also, when someone is taking a good or bad
decision, the rest of the family just explain their points of view instead of
complaining. We respect each other’s belongings, which is very important to
maintain respect and peace around us. Also, when I am not in a good mood, I like
to be alone for a while to avoid giving bad responses to anyone. Sometimes, we
are in front of a disrespectful person to whom it is difficult to show respect.
In that moment, I remember a quote from my father: “the worst you can do is to
pay attention to an annoying person.” That is why for my sisters and I respect
is a good weapon to achieve and win any battle because we have developed it
firstly at home to communicate among us thanks to my parents. Then we apply it
outside. I always respect my mother and older sisters because they have more
experience than me and can help me wisely if I have a problem. I think that through respect to everything and
to everyone is why success has not been something casual in my family, but an
attitude acquired from the education my parents provided us. That is why I say
respect and education go together.
In
the same way, in my family there are different good manners to apply inside and
outside the house. I have seen that after any meal, everybody has tasks to do
after meal time. I behave the same way when visiting another house because it
is of a well educated person to provide some help. From my parents, I have
learned that everybody sits at the table at any meal time, breakfast, lunch, or
dinner. My mother hates when someone is doing something else during this time,
so I’d better sit down. We have also
learned from my parents how to behave in public places since we were children
as well as to pay attention to someone speaking to us. Also, I have learned to
say “thanks” in order to be polite when a person does a favor to us. Besides,
we have learned from them to say where we go at night just in case anything bad
happen. To tell the truth is another very important good manner because as an
example, I remember once I took money from my mother`s pocket without asking
her. Then I received a punishment for it. Since that moment, I consider it is
better to tell the truth and ask when I need something. My little nephew, who
is living with us, is learning the process of being polite because he used to
interrupt people conversations with annoying questions. For this reason, my
mother started teaching him good manners. Now, he goes to his bedroom when
adults are speaking. Thanks to my parents` effort, I can say that everybody
recognizes our behavior wherever we go and treats us with respect because they
realize they are dealing with polite people. Thanks to my parents for teaching
us such an instrument which has opened many doors to us everywhere we go.
Finally,
there are important qualities in my family to mention. I consider love among my
family members, respect to each other’s actions, and thoughts as well as good
manners that we learned from my parents` hard work the tree most important
aspects of my family. We have obtained fruitful results in all kind of
relationships with friends, relatives, and colleagues. To write about my family
has helped me to give more importance to each member and what they do in order
to improve our relationship also It has been a great experience because when I
go deep in my heart to turn all those feelings I have for each person in my
family into writing, I definitely feel so proud of them.
